How to use 'Grief Breaks' to Find Peace Amid Holiday sorrow so you can Heal with Hope and Faith

The holiday season can feel like an emotional minefield when you’re grieving. One moment, you might be smiling at a cherished memory; the next, you're overwhelmed by a wave of sadness.

For families facing loss, these emotions can feel impossible to navigate amidst the lights, music, and festivities that now seem bittersweet. I know this season can be especially hard. As someone who recently lost my husband of 20 years, I understand the ache that seems to linger in the air. But I also know this: God is close, even in the pain. His Word promises, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18, NLT). You don’t have to do this alone.

One hack that has been invaluable to me in managing the tidal wave of emotions during this season is scheduling "grief breaks." What Is a Grief Break? A grief break is a dedicated time to sit with your feelings and allow yourself to process them privately. Giving yourself space to grieve is a deliberate choice, rather than letting emotions catch you off guard. It’s about creating a rhythm in your day that acknowledges your pain while also allowing room for moments of peace and gratitude.

Here’s how it works: Set Aside Time Daily Choose a specific time each day, maybe 15–30 minutes, when you can be alone and focus on how you’re feeling. This might involve journaling, praying, crying, or simply sitting in stillness. This is your safe space to let your emotions flow without judgment. Balance It with Intentional Gratitude After your grief break, transition into a moment of gratitude or light activity. Write down one or two things you’re thankful for, even if it feels small. It could be the warmth of a blanket, the sound of a favorite song, or the comfort of God’s Word. Gratitude doesn’t erase grief, but it helps create balance. Repeat as Needed Grief doesn’t keep a schedule, and that’s okay. If emotions surface unexpectedly, remind yourself it’s normal. Take a deep breath, allow yourself a brief moment to feel, and then return to the rhythm you’ve set for the day.

Why Grief Breaks Work

When we try to suppress our emotions, they tend to build up and spill over at the most inconvenient times—often leaving us feeling out of control. Scheduling grief breaks gives you permission to feel without guilt or fear. At the same time, incorporating moments of gratitude or light activity helps to lift your spirit and remind you that even in sorrow, there are glimmers of hope.

A Personal Reflection

This practice has been a lifeline for me. I’ve found that carving out time to grieve intentionally has made the rest of my day feel more manageable. Some days, my grief breaks are full of tears. Other days, they’re filled with quiet reflection and moments of joy at happy memories. But each time, I feel a little lighter knowing that God is with me in every moment. Friend, I encourage you to try this simple hack. Let yourself feel the depth of your emotions, but don’t let them steal your hope.

Grieve, but also look for moments of gratitude that remind you of God’s love and faithfulness. This holiday season, remember Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; He rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Let this truth be your anchor. God sees your pain, and He is holding you close. You are not alone. You are loved. And even in this hard season, there is hope.

With love and prayers, Shonta

P.S. I listen to this at least 100 times a day, it brings me peace try it Sister, TRUST IN GOD